Let Them Go

I read this quote about a year ago. I was going through a huge transition period. Little did I know how much more of a transition period I would be going through now. I am still taking last night pretty hard. Logically I know I shouldn't but emotionally it cuts me to the core.

 I am done chasing after people begging them to stay in my life. I am worth so much more than that. I have a good heart, a loving spirit and I care deeply about others. If people can't see that, let them walk. Let them make room for those who can see it who I can encourage and love.

For some reason it has hit me HARD lately that I am the daughter of two alcoholic parents. I know, I know why is it hitting me now? Really I don't have a good enough answer. It is hard not to feel quite normal. Things that come naturally to so many just don't with me. I would NEVER intentionally hurt anyone. Anyone who knows me knows that. the pain is just so intense right now. Where do I fit in? Do I fit in at all? Why can't people see the good in me? I do in them. I overlook the way they act and their imperfections why can't they extend to me the same courtesy. I have been through A LOT in the last few years.

 No, I haven't been my normal, happy, optimistic, cheerful self. I would challenge ANYONE to go through what I have and emerge perfect. It is a process. Just like a butterfly in a cocoon fighting it's way out. It takes time like any other process. It isn't easy and there is opposition but what emerges is so beautiful. It is my prayer I can break out of this cocoon. Maybe Heavenly Father is clearing out who doesn't belong in my life to bring others into my life. I know what it is like to feel the betrayal of friends. I know what it is like to not have family. I know what it is like to not have my needs met. But more than that I know my Savior. I know the atonement is real. I know He understands my physical pain which can be horrific at times and my emotional pain. HE understands. No one else ever will fully understand. They can try and some do. Some try to understand and for that I am eternally grateful but only HE understands. Only He took upon Himself all of our pains our infirmities our weaknesses so He could best know how to comfort us and I am grateful for that.

So just for today I choose joy because I choose to trust what the Lord is doing in my life even if it means taking people out of it. I choose joy because I know He is preparing me for a greater purpose. I choose joy because I spoke my truth and even though it was received horribly I still did it.

Here is the excerpt from the talk I read that REALLY hit me. So many times we go running after people beginning them to stay in our lives. At least I do. I am finally at a point where I realize not everyone has to love me or even like me. In fact if I am pleasing God sometimes they won't like me or agree with me. I remember that old adage, "If you love someone set them free. If they come back they are yours. If they don't come back, they never were yours." I am done chasing guys who can't decide whether or not they want to be in my life or not. I am worth more than that. I am done chasing friends who put me down or who don't ever take time to call me back. I respect myself more now. I am done with friends who continually break promises to me. No wonder I am exhausted! But I WILL CHOOSE JOY today because the other option is a whole lot more painful!

"Let It Go" by TD Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. 

I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone. When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. 

The Bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19] 

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. 

Let them go. 

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. 

You've got to know when it's dead. 

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay. 

Let them go!! 

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains . . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If someone has angered you . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents . . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If you have a bad attitude . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If you're feeling depressed and stressed . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

Let the past be the past Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing for 2007!!! 

LET IT GO!!! 

Get Right or Get Left. think about it, and then . . . . . . . . 

LET IT GO!!! 

"The Battle is the Lord's!"